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Foster-to-Adopt: Updates

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baby girl. flats to loftsFour months ago, on February 8th, we first met our foster daughter. Driving to the hospital that Saturday afternoon was so exciting and scary at the same time. We knew next to nothing about this little girl or the situation that led to her being in our care. We loved her already, but were worried because of all of the unknowns – would we be able to adopt her? how was her health? when could we bring her home?

So, where are we now? I’d probable describe it as cautiously optimistic. Everything we hear from the social workers and courts makes us hopeful and optimistic about being able to adopt this baby. But, I’m still a nervous wreck every time we have a meeting or a court date is scheduled. Things could change at any point.

sleeping babyWe love this little girl – who is getting so big! Almost rolling over, laughing at the dachshunds, and smiling all day long. She will be five months old next week and weighs about 13 pounds – more than double what she was when we first brought her home.

The next step in her case is an audit to determine if everything has been done to facilitate reunification with her birth family. Once that has been completed the goal of the state can be changed over to adoption. We’re told things could go relatively quickly, but we shall see. We are trying to take one day at a time, and enjoy every moment we get with this sweet little girl. πŸ™‚

 

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14 thoughts on “Foster-to-Adopt: Updates

  1. Pingback: Foster-to-Adopt Update | adoptingjames

  2. Such amazing people. I sincerely hope that things go as you want them too.

  3. I hope you get the outcome you’re hoping for.

  4. Whatever happens, thank you for opening your hearts to care for a child in need!

  5. I am glad your adoption is working well for you. My husband and I applied to adopt a grandaughter who went into foster care as an infant. Unfortunately rather than reunite her with her biological relatives she was awarded to the foster care parents, so I have mixed feelings about foster care adoptions. That doubt is increased by the fact that we wanted to adopt both her and her biological sister together, the sister being physically, mentally and visually impaired. We were recommended to adopt the sister, but DHS had a fit and as such a judge ruled that we cannot even have supervised visits. It has been 7 months since that order and nothing is being done. It is a very frustrating situation.

    • I’m so sorry that you were unable to adopt your granddaughters. I know in our state they try to place children with biological family members whenever possible. In the case of our foster daughter this wasn’t possible for various reasons, and so we feel very blessed to have her in our home for as long as we are able.

  6. I have been exactly where you are now – and I just want you to know that we not only survived it, we adopted our little girl on December 15, 2005. She is now 12 and I can’t imagine life without her. For us, the pressure came mostly off though at the court hearing the April before when the parental rights were terminated. Then we knew that we were in the clear. It was especially hard until them because while it would have broken my heart if she had been sent to anyone else even a family member that was a good parent, I knew what she would be being sent back into and that was tough to swallow. Constant prayer and the sure knowledge of a promise I believed God had given me carried me through, but there still was a lot of worrying, too!

    Good luck to all three of you and the dachsunds!

    Nancy
    http://www.workingmomadventures.com

  7. Blessings on Your adopting this Child. May You all have Lots of Happiness. Love and Regards.

  8. I hope this all goes as it should. You are her momma.

    • I definitely feel like her mommy, but I also know she has a birth mom who is missing out on so much. It’s a sad situation, but we are so glad to have this baby safe in our home!

  9. Oh, how wonderful to see you hold that baby at the hospital.

    We went from beginning as potential adoptive parents to foster care parents, and happy to say that a year later LIFE gave our daughter a second chance when biological parents signed their consent.

    After completing our final court date to finalize our child’s adoption, the family court judge said to our drooling toddler, “Young lady, today you have made me very happy.”

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